A fan go Gaga…‘I’m scared I’ll never feel the same happiness again’: how to handle a Taylor Swift comedown

Kelsey has been a Taylor Swift fan since childhood. Last week in Melbourne was the 27-year-old’s first time seeing the singer play live. It was a huge moment. But now that it’s over Kelsey is “just plain sad”.

“I’ve been in post-Taylor Swift depression,” she says. “I’ve been trying to manage it … But my mind wanders back to the concert. And it just makes you feel a bit sad, because it’s like a dream that you don’t want to wake up from.”
Kelsey isn’t alone in experiencing a harsh comedown after the Melbourne leg of the Eras tour. On TikTok, fans are posting videos of themselves crying in the car on the way to work, “now permanently unfit to function normally”, or asking followers what they’re meant to do with their life now that Eras is over. On the social media platform X, others have said that after watching Swift perform, they’re scared they’ll “never feel the same happiness again”.

Melbourne Swiftie Rachel Turner says the blood, sweat, tears and money that went into attending the event makes the crash feel harder.

“Half the country was in line for those tickets, and I spent hours and hours across so many different devices to be able to get the chance to go,” she says. “Since then I’ve been in preparation mode for Eras. I’ve been watching the TikToks, I’ve been planning the outfits, I’ve been strategising what era everyone should dress as for like three months.

“So much effort, planning and anticipation really built up into one night, so I’m definitely feeling like I’ve closed the chapter.”

It “absolutely is” normal to feel a little deflated after an anticipated event like the Eras tour, says Kayla Greenstien, a former counsellor and psychology PhD candidate who was on the steering committee of last week’s Swiftposium, an academic conference devoted to assessing the musician’s widespread impact.

“I think we see a similar thing with weddings,” Greenstien says. “For people attending the Taylor Swift concert, the atmosphere created there is such a space of femininity … to step out of that concert space and go back into the real world, it’s kind of like the Barbie movie effect – it can absolutely be jarring. So I think people really need to look out for themselves at this time.”